When you talk to a stranger---or a new friend

I had lunch with, hopefully, a new friend today. We had interesting conversation, to say the least. And she helped me view myself in a different light. Sometimes we go through life viewing our personal problems/issues as mere "stains on our shirts." Something to ignore, get over, ya know? We don't stop to think how they affect our appearance, our self, to others. Then you meet a stranger and you casually talk about your stain. They give you a fresh perspective. Something your usual contacts overlook because they know you so well already. I've just had that experience today. I discussed my bitches about my life. My new friend pointed in new directions for me to go about solving them. Not as in new avenues to travel, but new ways of viewing my current bitches. Which then led to some "ahh-ha's" and "I see's" that helped me understand why I may have been failing to solve my problems.

The point? Talk to someone you don't know very well, thats trustworthy, to get a fresh outlook. Meet new people. Get a therapist. Never give up.

Hey, Where have I been?

I have been NOT around. I have had so much going on. Work, kids, hubby out of town, yadda,, yadda. Plus I got pregnant and miscarried. A lot of stuff, folks. Now, I have been thinking about school again and writing a book. You know, I don't know what I want to do, but survive. No, I want to do more than survive. My life is so...idk...just life. I want to know the meaning of it all. Is that ever possible? It would suck to never know--or yet worse, to know at the end. I bought a Phish CD for the first time ever. I dig them. Why didn't I look into them sooner? I heard of them when I was younger, but never interested. Boy, did I miss something. And I just watched a clip on youtube from David Letterman about the group. The CD I bought was their last CD because they had just announced (in 2004) that they were no longer performing together as a group. Talk about being late for something (a fad). The CD I bought has an intro titled Scents and Subtle Sounds. There is also a track titled the same. I love the intro version. Its so on-point to what I am about right now. Which, by the way is confusing to me. So its just a tip to the iceberg, but it explains a lot. I found the intro version on youtube. And for your enjoyment it goes into the actual song. Enjoy.

Other Blogs and Being Jaded

I have been looking over other blogs--and following many of them. I find them chock full of ideas. I just love how now-a-days one can just find so many ideas and thoughts, and people putting themselves out there (for real or for show) at the tip of your fingers. I know, that reference was so cliche. But, I don't care. It's how I feel. And speaking of how I feel and cliche, I have been feeling jaded lately.

I have heard that term so many times and never understood it. I have tried to use it, but it never felt right--until I was actually jaded. Now, I know. Sometimes you don't know something until you are something. Or is that always the case; and we as know-it-all's think a book or dictionary or college degree enables to know without being. "Being jaded means.... and I know this because I read the definition in Websters new Slang Dictionary." The weird thing is I was sitting on my porch feeling all--well jaded--and that is exactly what thought popped into my head when I was trying to understand the way I felt inside. And it was like "I feel so jaded. This is jaded."

And you must wonder, "Why do you feel jaded lately, Lady J." Ooh, that's a tongue twister: jaded lately lady j, jaded lately lady j. OK, back to normal. Because I feel everything is on me. Or against me. Well, not against me, just not for me. And maybe not on me, just there in my way. A "why me" complex. Which is bad. That is victim thinking. And for those of you who know me, I have been in a positive flow. I have been trying to do self-learning and discovering. I want to know the "what else is out there." And victim thinking is not going to get me there. In the middle of my delayed Quarter-life Crisis, this is the one thing I have learned. Life is what you believe it to be. Whether by Law of Attraction, Self Fulfilling Prophecy, Thought Patterns, whatever. Being Jaded is accepting the blah. And I don't want blah. I want "Ahh" Like angels singing, the ultimate life revelation, the I see the light. And for once, can I type something without fucking up the words "the" and "and" throughout the entire thing?

Urban Dictionary Def for Jaded
I think they got it. Again, it's hard to know jaded until you feel it.


Here is a song/lyric video that totally gets what I feel. And conveniently, it uses "jaded".

Interesting take on Law of Attraction

I have been dabbling in the idea of Law of Attraction. I find the concept believable, but hard to practice. I follow Jonathan Fields on Twitter. He has his own blog (Asleep @the Wheel). Recently, he posted an interesting take on the Law of Attraction. His take on it reminds me of Tony Robbins. Hope you find this helpful.

P.S. I do not agree or disagree fully with the LOA--I'm testing the waters. Like I said, I do find it believable, but I'm not sure the results are as miraculous. In that aspect, I agree with JF--its self-motivation at work. But only God knows.....

http://www.jonathanfields.com/blog/ive-got-a-secret-the-law-of-attraction-is-a-lie/

Reap What You Sow

I want to talk about the Positive Affirmation for today that I have on the left side of my blog (its a box after the twizzler explanation). If you are not reading on Monday, May 18th: The PA says "Reap What You Sow." In other words: you get what you plant, you get what you give, and other such phrases. So I thought....

I want to talk about this because I feel cheated at work. I was not able to get my food discount today (or for the rest of this week, for that matter) because I did not do my deep clean last week. Its a rule, so why whine (or whinge?) if I break the rule and get reprimanded? First, I do it 95% of the time. Second, I've been bringing my lunch and didn't have the time to prep today. It's like I forgot to bring it just so I could be told my problem. Because I would have never noticed the tiny sign with my name on it that is beside all the other signs which regularly loiter in this area. And third, they decided to enforce the rule on the week I honestly forget to do it! Come on! I've been a bit bummed about it and wanted to rebel. OK, Lady J how old are you again?

So, I came to blog about the PA because when I read it at first, I was like, "Duh, we hear this all the time, but is it not "You reap what you sow?" Yes, it is. Usually, you read or hear "You reap what you sow." As in, you get what you give, etc, etc... "So why is this one different?", I thought. That,my friends, is what is so important here. Instead of warning you, this phrase is telling you to do. Reap what you sow.

Do you get it? Reap what you sow. Now do what you have done--experience it to its fullest. Cause and Effect. The ripples in the pond have returned to you, my friend. And that is exactly what has happened to me. I resisted and I received resistance. I don't like doing deep cleans so I put it off until the last minute. And sometimes I run out of time-- forgetting when there is no room to forget. In turn, my manager "resisted" giving me a discount. I didn't pay much for my meal, by all means, but I did learn a lesson today. You really do reap what you sow.

So, where in your life are you putting up resistance, or being lazy,or being doubtful? Be careful or you may not like how your reaping turns out. It's like the old saying goes, "You've made your bed, now lay in it."

Fire is Contagious

I have to say that whatever is burning up Poison Ivy is totally inspiring me to blog, blog, double blog (or triple blog in this case). Side note: Do not burn Poison Ivy it is dangerous to your health and those around you. Literally, and metaphorically for Dirtbag and Bucky. Anyways. I found this awesome post, while reading Jamie Varon's post on "10 Ways to Boldly Market Yourself." by the way, this is also the same article I have found the other sites for my previous posts.

The post is by Marie Kinney-Oates. It is essentially about listening to your heart. Following your dreams. Not Giving up. As I read the article, a haunting feeling came over me. I have heard this message before. Not the "follow your dream" part. No, the other message in her post----the Law of Attraction. She didn't advocate this in anyway, mind you. It's just a message I personally picked up.

Let me quote from her article a bit to make my point: all taken from Marie Kinney-Oates
"Funny thing is that people who hide from their heart usually attract others in a similar situation."
“Maybe he listened because this is the first time you were following your own advice,”

The messages: What you give out is what you get, Law of Attraction, Energy follows Focus
Take these messages how you like. I'm into learning right now, so I will mention many things that may or may not make sense to others.

All this repeat messaging brings me to another message I have come across--the one that really haunts me. In Conversations With God, Book 3, it is stated that God is always trying to tell us something. He has done it many ways, by many people. And the sad thing is, we (people), ignore it. I am always receiving the same messages. Just said in different ways, by different people. And the literature or videos, or magazine articles about health that I receive them from are not trying to send the same message. They are just trying to send a message period, about what they believe in passionately.

I then think of one of my previous posts about your inner self trying to tell you something. Wake up and listen, folks.

Lady J-san is ready master...

They say that when the student is ready, she (or he) searches out the teacher. With that said, while reading the guy online form my previous post, I followed a link on his page. It was about "The Life Purpose Lie." How interesting. So I read it. And I liked it. To sum it up, this guy says to reverse the process. Instead of finding your life purpose and then doing what you were meant to do, one should do what you are inspired to do and find your purpose along the way. If you ever find it, he says. I like this POV. Especially, the whole "evolving" way he puts our way through life. We evolve and so our purpose does too. Maybe purpose is just living our best. This whole idea ties into many of the ideas I have run across: The Why Cafe, Conversations With God Book 3, and even flowdreaming and Louise Hay.

So what have I learned form these two articles? A lot. But what, exactly, you wonder. Well, not to stress over purpose. My purpose is to live. I want to live my best and so I am searching for ways to learn myself. What better way to live than to know myself and what I want out of life? What's important to me? What do I want to achieve? Who do I want to impact? What do I want to teach my children? How do I want to be remembered? How to type without making so many typos? Can you answer these questions? Try.

Life Purpose

For those of you who read this, you know I'm really into self-learning. From Abraham to Zen-ness, I want to learn it. I want to find a purpose for my existence--hell, everyone's existence. And while searching, I often wonder, "How will I know when I find It? How will it feel to have found It?" And then I come across The Confidence Guy Online from reading Jamie Varon's site. He had a great article on one's Life Purpose.

Basically, he says not to focus on the purpose, just do what's important to you, what you like. And if you are trying to discover it, do it for the right reasons--he then links you to a site about changing yourself, making yourself better. Which is odd, because that is why I am reading Anthony Robbins hard core lately. So, I'm on the right track, I guess...But I still wanted to know about this feeling of knowing that I finally hit jackpot. Maybe this guy on line has the answer to the big question. And he does. I'll quote it for you:

"...don’t fall into the trap of thinking that it has to be a big, grand, life changing “thing” that puts your whole life into context. It can be small and quiet and graceful too."
--The Confidence Guy Online

I know, this may not be some big secret or amazing revelation, but it hit home for me. I'm on the right track. And thats all that matters.

P.S. Please visit his site to enjoy the whole article.

Self Learning Insight for Today

Click the entry title to check out this great article. How fitting is this article for me because I am not writing the tip myself--I'm just linking you to a site for the info! I'm doing this because I do not feel I have time to do it and do the other things I want to so desperately do! SO enjoy, on someone Else's behalf. But if you decide not to visit the link---and I highly advise that you do---please take this quote from the article to heart:

YOU MUST DO SOMETHING EVERY SINGLE DAY TOWARDS ACCOMPLISHING YOUR GOAL.

P.S. just in case the link didn't work in the title
http://www.income.com/blog/2008/12/23/how-to-get-everything-you-want-in-24-hours/

Self Learning Insight for Today

OK, today I was on Facebook. I went to add someone as my friend. I viewed her profile and began hating myself immediately. She is sooooo Mrs. Successful. I envy her soooo much. I know all this is personal, but bear with me--I'm going somewhere with it. And I'm sure you ask, aren't you successful, Lady J? My first response is NO! I could bring you down with my whys and woes, but I have a better point to make.

So, I email my BFF and tell her how much I hate myself (an email with only I hate myself--that actually says a lot). Wait, I lied--I did put that I needed to visit my fave affirmation site. It's just all the "I hate myselves" clouded my mind. And so that is exactly what I did (www.louisehay.com). I read the affiramtion and smirked to myself. How odd, it said "I experience love wherever I go."

And here I was hating myself. Exactly the affirmation I needed. But, I didn't get the everywhere I go part--What, does everyone love me and like me and I'm so happy, yadda yadda... I know, I know, not positive. Then my mom calls. Doesn't that still make you feel like a kid?--My mom's calling me. Anyway. I tell her my situation. She gives me a little pep talk. Again I'm feeling kiddy ;).

In a nut shell, she tells me I can't go comparing apples to oranges. I'm successful in areas that [the Facebook character] is not and likewise she is successful in areas that I am not. So why does she have to be successful in areas that I want to be successful in too? Whine wine wine, more cheese please.

We are successful in our own ways. My mom assured me that I am not a failure. And I have many things to be grateful for. Be appreciative. Mom, you are sooooo right. Which brings me back to the affirmation. I get "the wherever I go" part. Wherever I go. Did you get it too? I experience love wherever I go. My success is my own, where I make it, where I want it to be. And I should be grateful. Not worried about FB Character!

So for those of you who don't get affirmations: they are inspirational quotations that you repeat to yourself. In other words you are telling yourself something so much you actually believe it and then it becomes true for you. No, I don't mean "I'm going to win the lottery. I'm going to win the lottery." Its changing your own belief patterns. We all have set ways of thinking. Only, they aren't set. They are only thoughts and thoughts can be changed. For example, you are always thinking people are against you. My husband feels this way when he is driving---you think I'm kidding. >:( ). Whenever you get those uncomfortable feelings, thoughts, etc, you repeat an appropriate affirmation until you feel well, balanced, centered, whatever you want to call it, again. This works for many situations and emotions. I've been doing some self study lately. And affirmations have been the biggest part, because I had not got the hang of Flowdreaming. I tell you, honestly, I have been feeling so happy.

Today I realized this because I was laughing at myself and finding the sweeter side of life. Like, how I'm a good speller--just not a good typer (typos), he he. Wow, this is my longest blog to date.

Lady J.

Self Learning Insight for Today

I came across the site of John P. Strelecky. He is the suthor of The Why Cafe. Its seems he helps people find their Purpose For Existing (PFE) and their Big 5. The Big 5 is the "five most important things you want to do, see, or experience in your lifetime? The five things that would help you fulfill the very reason why you were born?" You have to be a member of his site to experience the teachings, but I found a few tidbits of interesting info. One is to list your 3 favorite movies of all time. This will give you a deep insight into your Big 5 and PFE. And two is to list what you want in life in 3 1/2 minutes. My three favorite movies of all time--I based this on the fact that I could watch it over and over again and still enjoy it---- Harry Potter (any), Three to Tango, and Nacho Libre. Runner-Ups were Snatch, Detroit Rock City, and The Goonies. But the fact that I put the others first must have significance. I wonder how this works, but I'd have to be a member. And that's not free. :(. What deep insights could I gain from Harry Potter, Three to Tango, and Nacho Libre? I'll be tinkering with that for a while.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7u5FoUxy9a8

The Why Cafe

I read this awesome little book titled "The Why Cafe." It was a very interesting read. An eye opener--or mind opener. In short it's about a guy who ends up in this strange, omniscient cafe. The menu asks 3 questions: Why are you here?; Are you afraid of death?; Are you happy? The menu changes to where it sounds like he is asking himself the questions--Why am I here?, etc. The book is about finding your purpose. Ask yourself these questions. I did. I'm not sure if I answered the first one, but I'm trying. Its suggested to try different things to see what you are good at and enjoy. That would be your purpose. Anyways, that is what I am doing. I have always loved to write. I want to write professionally for magazines or do novel writing. SO. I am going to practice here. You will see "articles" on my blog. I beg you to respond and criticize me. I need the encouragement and help.

Some Learning with Joyce Meyers

You all know how I love to focus on one's inner self. Well, today I have some help from Joyce Meyers. Joyce Meyers is a great woman. She loves God, helps people all over the world, I could go on. I receive her news letter in the mail. In it came a little pamphlet on self transformation, having a personality makeover. I'm sure she won't mind if I share this with you. It has three Steps for 4 different areas. I'll go over one area in three steps each day until we're done.

Area 1:Unforgiveness
Step 1: Introspection (looking in)
Think about who has hurt you and that you have not forgiven---be specific. Why have you chosen not to forgive this person?

Step 2: Renovation (beginning work) Practice Being Grateful
What has God forgiven you of? Be specific. How does God's forgiveness make you feel? If you'll have a grateful heart, you'll be able to forgive others. In other words, if you can accept God's forgiveness, forgive yourself, then you'll be able to forgive others. And the better you will feel. Holding grudges only hurts you.

Step 3: Transformation (results) Experience Joy
Imagine being able to enjoy every relationship in life, no matter what has happened to you in the past.

Hope that made you think. I know this was serious talk, but you can't always be a goof!

The Freudian Slip-up

Have you ever wrote something down and it was wrong--misspelled---and then figured out you were writing the wrong thing down anyway? Or you do something wrong only to figure out you should have done something else or that you were forgetting something? Well, I call that a Freudian slip-up. Its your inner-self telling you something isn't right, but it takes a minute for your outer-self to figure it out. It always happens to me and then I'm like, "Oh, I was trying to tell myself the whole time!" Well, my point is: if there is something in your life that keeps messing up, take a look at it and see what your inner-self is trying to tell you. What are you forgetting? What should you be doing differently? Are you doing the right thing at all? Good Luck and God Bless.